It’s All About Compassion

By Dating Positives July 01, 2019

Alex has been living with HIV for about 3 years. He has been undetectable for almost the same amount of time.


“For the first two years, I was I was attending this sort of clinic-type space,” Alex explained. “It was fine, but it didn’t feel like personalized health care. They’d go, ‘Okay, here’s your meds, and blood work’s fine.’ But are we really talking about other issues that need to be addressed? What if my partner is not on PrEP? What if they don’t want to take PrEP? What if people don’t want to use condoms? These are real things that it’s uncomfortable, but we have to talk about it. And to have someone who just knows specifically what that’s like, it puts you at ease. It’s all about compassion.


And if you come from a place of genuine love, and caring, and generosity, anyone can feel that and pick up on that. If you treat me like Patient #479, well, I don’t want to come back. I mean, sure, you can refill my meds and that’s nice, but I’d like to be able to have a conversation with you. I’d like to be able to feel comfortable with you to talk about things openly and honestly.


It’s so much easier when you can find a specific doctor who won’t judge you, who knows exactly what you’re going through… knows exactly the protocol to take.”


That’s why #WeNeedAButton

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